Ejaculation is a serious problem if you do it before time. When a man ejaculates just at the moment of penetration or after a minute or two of penetration or during foreplay it is known as premature ejaculation. Early ejaculation leads to unsatisfied sexual intercourse. It not only hampers your sex life but also creates problem in your love life. It also humiliates a man’s self esteem and ego as he cannot satisfy his partner sexually. It is a very common problem and as we know, every problem has its own solution so does this. Different method works for different men. You just have to find out the appropriate solution which suits you and helps you tackle this problem.
The SAA (Sexual Advice Association) has provided arrange of self help procedures for delaying ejaculation. On a worldwide study, it has been observed that around 30% men suffer from PE that is premature ejaculation which causes several damages to the sexual as well as daily life of a man. An ejaculation is termed premature when a man experiences ejaculation in between 1 minute to 4 minute of sexual encounter, which can be foreplay, penetrative sex, oral sex, etc. However, in the recent studies it has been stated that any sexual intercourse which doesn’t lasts more than two minutes is a premature ejaculation.
There are basically two types of premature ejaculation, primary or life-long premature ejaculation and acquired or secondary premature ejaculation. The primary issue, that is the life-long premature ejaculation is caused due to masturbating to ejaculate early in order to avoid getting caught. It is often experienced by teenagers. Primary premature ejaculation is tough to heal as it may be caused due to psychological reasons. Secondary premature ejaculation can be cured with right treatment, diet and adequate amount of sleep. Men experience it later in their life as it may be caused due to physical damage like high blood pressure and diabetes or psychological damage like stress and frustration.
There are few measures which when taken may help you delay ejaculation. Some men try to think about something else which actually diverts their mind and help delay ejaculation. The more boring is the topic, the better is your performance. Having round two after round one with your partner at bed may actually help you perform better than round one as ejaculation takes more time. But some men don’t prefer it as they find it difficult to get a second erection. There special creams, delay spray and condoms which help delay the orgasm or ejaculation. These products help numb the sensation in the penis to delay the ejaculation by another 5 to 7 minutes. Though there are no evidence to prove its genuineness and effectiveness according to the Sexual Advice Association. The numbing effect can also affect your partner if you are having unprotected sexual intercourse.
Some behavioral techniques can also help delay your orgasm, like the start and stop method, the squeeze technique, the deep breathing method, etc. A combined routine of sexual counseling along with any of the above process, right diet, medication can actually cure your problem.
How to delay ejaculation?
Here we have a range of techniques or methods which can actually help you delay your orgasm and have a satisfying desired sexual intercourse session with your partner.
A thicker condom is a type of condom with thick walls. These condoms prevent you from experiencing optimum sensitivity and have a satisfying sex. The thick wall reduces the level of sensitivity, resulting in better sexual performance.
Around 50% to 90% men have managed to overcome premature ejaculation by practicing the behavioral techniques. But then there is a risk of relapse if any significant changes occur in your life, for example a new partner or any stressful event. If you can master these techniques then it will be the most helpful thing for you. Men who are over sensitive might be the most beneficial with the behavioral techniques as they suffer from different causes of premature ejaculation. Proper medication can be helpful too as it reduces over sensitivity and delay ejaculation but cannot cure premature ejaculation fully. It has to be taken for the rest of your life for better performance.
The “Start-Stop” technique
The start and stop technique is the most helpful one as it is all about managing yourself. Try this method when you are alone. Try it while you are masturbation. Start masturbating and stop when you are about to have orgasm and wait for around 30 seconds or 1 minute, start over again after a minute and stop when you are about to climax. This helps relax your muscles and sensitivity, giving you the adequate time to start over again and last longer than usual.
The squeeze method
The squeeze technique is an effortless technique which helps last longer in bed and delay your ejaculation. It is just like the start and stop method. Here you have to squeeze the base of the penis when you are near climax. Try this method by masturbation. When you are about to have an orgasm squeeze the base of the penis which doesn’t lets the semen to move forward and reduces the sensitivity. Try this method all by yourself and not with your partner. When you master this technique, invite your partner for some quality intimate moments and surprise her with your performance. It will help you improve your sex life, give you and your partner the required satisfaction.
Diverting or distracting your mind can actually help you last long in bed. The more you think of something else rather than sex and the pleasure of having sex, you tend to delay your ejaculation. Think of boring or annoying things which will keep your mind diverted and your penis erect, last long and delay the orgasm.
Deep breathing is actually the exhale inhale process in an orderly manner. Take deep breaths while having sex. Deep breathes help release the tension and relax your senses. It is a kind of meditation which helps in better circulation of blood in your body too.
According to a study in the Journal of Sexual Medicine of 2007 it was found that an hour of daily yoga for around 12 weeks can increase the duration of sex. It may move from 30 seconds to around 2 minutes. The appropriate and best yoga forms are those which help in relaxation and strengthen the pelvic muscles.
Chart a new course
Make a note of your sexual arousal and the time of ejaculation after arousal. Rate it on a scale of 1 to 10 counting each point under every 30 seconds. Start tightening your pelvic muscle whenever you feel you are about to ejaculate soon, relax the body when the sensitivity is reduced and the arousal has decreased. Keep on practicing until you gain full control.